Should You Grieve When Your Pet Dies?

When a beloved pet dies the emotions that comeshared and easier to overcome if others show
out can be overwhelming; grief, loss, emptiness,sympathy and understanding.
guilt (if you have made the choice of euthanasia)- The loss of a pet is not as important as the loss
and depression are just some that can arise. Forof a human. Not true. I have a wonderful family
non pet lovers it is hard to comprehend why webut the loss of one of my cats still hits me hard.
should feel so much for 'just an animal' and manyThey are also my family, and for many are the
cannot understand why there are the same, andsame as babies.
sometimes stronger, emotions arising as when a- If you euthanise your pet you are selfish. By
relative dies. The truth is that these animals areletting you pet die with dignity and releasing them
family to us, often as beloved as children, andfrom pain is a gift that we can give a loved one.
that the grief we feel when our 'babies' pass onIf you want to prolong your animal to a few
can be as real to us as that of a family member.more months of pain, that would be selfish.
I suffered from all the emotions recently when I- Pets don't mourn the loss of other pets. Tell
awoke to find one of my cats had died in herthat to my other cat! He is still looking for his
sleep. Guilt - had she been ill and I hadn't noticed,companion, as he has when one has gone before.
loss - she had been my companion for over- The best way to deal with grief is to keep busy.
fourteen years and helped me through much,Grief does not go away if you push it to one side.
emptiness - her loss has left a big hole in my life,It will return, with greater force.
and grief for her passing. Yet my initial reaction- Getting another pet as soon as possible will stop
was to hide my feelings, firstly from my twoyou feeling grief. Not so. Another animal cannot
young children who wouldn't understand, andreplace the one that has died and if you rush into
secondly because of others vision of 'it's just agetting another before you have had time to say
cat'. And then I realised that, whilst not breakinggoodbye to the first you may not be emotionally
down in front of my children was sensible,ready to accept it.
denying myself a grieving process because ofSuffering loss is painful, no matter who you have
what others think is just plain stupid. Restrictinglost. Grief is part of the healing process, but often
your emotions is damaging to your well being -you will need help to come to terms with your
grieving is natural and healthy and should bepain and loss. Seeking help does not mean that
accepted no matter who we are grieving over.you are weak, it shows that you are strong
Here are a few more myths to dispel:enough to accept that you can feel the loss of
- It is best to grieve alone. Actually grief is bestanother, and are strong enough ask for help.