What To Do When Someone Dies

Sorting out the financial affairs of someone whoSuch insensitive behaviour can be very upsetting
has died can be a distressing and confusingbut many bereaved people suffer calls that are
process. Most of the big banks and financialnot just insensitive but down right aggressive. A
institutions have special departments to ensurecredit card company called an elderly widow three
that matters are dealt with as sensitively asdays running to demand payment of an
possible but not all companies manage to do this.outstanding balance despite being told that
A recent programme on BBC Radio Fourprobate had not yet been granted. The calls only
unearthed some appalling stories of crass andstopped when she complained to a supervisor. A
inappropriate behaviour. One caller told of herlocal council issued a summons for non payment
experience with a bank’s call centre. She rangof council tax on an empty property. When the
to tell them that her husband had recently dieddeceased’s son rang to explain the situation
and was told that the bank could not act on herhe was told that it was irrelevant whether his
instructions because they had to speak to thefather was dead, he occupied the property for
account holder. She asked them if they knewthe first two months of the year and the council
what dead meant and whether they had anywas therefore entitled to payment.
hints for her on communicating with the dead. AThe only reliable way to protect yourself from
few months later she can laugh about thispeople like this is to instruct a professional to
experience but just think how upsetting this couldhandle probate on your behalf. About 88% of
be for someone who is still raw with grief.people choose to seek out professional probate
Sadly, this is by no means an isolated incident. Aservices. However, the 12% of people who handle
telephone company told a widow that "thethe administration of an estate themselves
account could not be transferred into her namedeserve better. I should like to see compulsory
without her husband’s permission" because ittraining for all call centre staffs who are likely to
was his name that appeared on the bill.handle calls from bereaved people and an
Another caller said that she often felt as if sheenforceable code of conduct for all banks, utilities
was the first person ever to be reporting a death.and other creditors that must be followed in all
She said that front line staffs were unhelpful andcases. Until then, if you are dealing with the affairs
apparently baffled by the situation and there wasof a deceased person I am afraid you will need a
very rarely any human response of sympathy orthick skin and a great deal of patience.
compassion.